The Love Scout

Francis Githinji asked:


In the 20th century, international dating was something very rare. The success stories were far much fewer compared to the recent times. People had to migrate and live in one geographical area to be considered dating. Nowadays international dating is the actual cool in thing. With the use of dating web sites on the world cyberspace international dating has been made so easy it is unbelievable. When people sign in they create dating profiles which serve as a marketing tool for them. A good profile has a photo attached on it to show how the person looks like. If another person has any interest in her she contacts her through a chatting system. What happens afterwards is up to the two people. They can either take it to the next level or drop the touch.

The beauty of international dating is in the diverse origins of the two people. The conversations in the chat room are very interesting as the two people try to learn about each other’s lifestyles and culture. It is in this wealth of information that you find each other interesting and attractive since as we all know, knowledge is very attractive. Dating profiles say a lot about who we are. A careful choice of words is very important while laying down a profile. They even say what you can’t. For example you do not have to tell the whole world you are humorous and cockier. It will be seen in your words. You do not have to tell you are cheeky some of your photos will tell. There are several ways of communicating through the dating web sites.

Dating web sites are great avenues through which international dating is made possible. The chances where people meet through other channels are very few. They might exchange contacts but their meeting only bears fruit if they go back to using the technology like e-mail, yahoo messenger and any other private chat system. These people lay out their dating profiles in the answers they give. If you really want to know who a person is, do not give him/her time to rethink the words to define who he is. If he is fully aware of his identity, he should be able to say who he is without any hesitation. Time to sit down and come up with a dating profile to place in a dating site only allows biasness. It is actually a “painted profile”

Good use of dating sites combined with good dating profiles yields to perfect international dating opportunities. It is a good feeling of not being a local hero. Being an international giant in the dating field exudes a lot of pride. For instance to date a black man if you are white woman or a white woman if you are a black man calls for a lot of liberty and flexibility of mind. International dating is for the adventurous people who are highly spirited. Someone who is accommodative enough to embrace different cultures. Life is enjoyable, live for the moment and see wide and far before you close your eyes forever.

Francis Githinji asked:


As reflected by our daily lives, good dating skills come along with the ability to get along with people. Does dating only apply to people who are geographically together? Must you date your from your own race? Dating is common in our day to day life. I have come to agree that most different-race friends have an agenda but are hesitant to express their feelings in fear of rejection. Some rejections are so emotionally painful that many people shy away from them. Being rejected by your object of desire on racial bases is so heart breaking. However there are success stories of love and happiness. One should understand the culture or taboos of the person one is dating since it builds respect between the two lovers. This is mostly applicable in both inter racial dating and international dating.

There are taboos in the Muslim religion that make them unique compared to other religions. They have their likes and dislikes. Understanding such principals make you enjoy international dating. Inter racial dating is healthy since it results into good relations between races and the two races can be involved in other activities to better their living standards for instance trade. This international dating can lead to inter marriages where the races can exchange their ideas according to their culture if they accept one another and focus on love as their joining factor. Dating skills are important in such mixed relationships. Only knowledge and wisdom can to make the relationships a success.

If only the world could accept other races just as they are and stop fighting for racial superiority there could be a lasting solution where all the races could live as one community. What happens in real sense is that, some races find themselves better than others and this leads to discrimination. The discriminated person’s  humanity is reduced hence lowering his/her self-esteem. This affect an individual ability to deliver. The social life is affected and off course the dating skills leave a lot to be desired. Inter racial dating faces some challenges because a person from a junior race dating someone from a superior race may feel intimidated. An American and a European dating relationship can be a success since they share something in common. Whereas it is a good thing, international dating should be encouraged to try and bridge the gap.

It is sad to find that when an Arab and an African are dating, they may take a lot of time and energy trying to understand one another since there are some differences between the two races. Inter racial dating should be able to withstand all the negatives. Choice of dating zones is important and should be considered, social places are considered as dating venues away from home to create change of what is common. International dating rarely suffers from monotony. The two people from different worlds are always moving around, applying joint dating skills and having fun. For instance, think of a date in the dinning room in a house in the suburb and another in a park where you enjoy birds singing, a variety of flowers with different smells and presence of other people who are also out for a date. This could keep you in the dating mood since you are not in what you are used to everyday.

Filipina Eyes asked:


A Filipina Lady strives to fulfill her dreams, she is kindhearted, shows respect to both young and old, she laughs, she cries, she triumphs, she fails, but she will always stand up, and say I’m a Filipina. I’m proud of where I came from, I’m proud of my country, I’m proud of being a Pinay, I’m proud to be a Filipino.

The Philippines has many affinities with the Western world, derived mainly from the cultures of Spain, Latin America, and the United States. After the Japanese were defeated in 1945, the Philippines was granted independence from the United States on July 4, 1946. The Philippines constitutes an archipelago of 7,107 islands with a total land area of approximately 300,000 square kilometers (116,000 sq mi) and is the world’s 12th most populous country, with a population of over 85 million as of 2005. The history of the Philippines can be divided into four distinct phases: the pre-Spanish period (before 1521); the Spanish period (1521-1898); the American period (1898-1946); and the post-independence period (1946-present). Many say that the American period had the most influence on today’s Filipino. In 1987, the Philippine Constitution was changed to make Filipino and English both the official languages.

Filipina Lady Attraction

Many ask why so many western men are attracted to Filipina Ladies, especially Americans. It is the simplicity of their values with a mixture of American influence that seems to attract most men. In the Asian world, the Philippines is the largest English speaking country. This makes communication easier for men who find the Filipina beauty alluring and friendly. If a man is searching for a non-western lady with Asian values, the language barrier is not a factor when getting to know these ladies. The Philippines is also one of the largest Christian countries in Asia and it is the world’s fifth largest Catholic Nation. Because of Western influence, finding common ground with a Filipina Lady can easily be established. However, the Western world is not without its rudeness. A number of Filipina Ladies find derogatory names like “foreign bride” or “mail order bride” being disrespectful to their culture and gender. As one well informed Filipina Lady said: “when it comes to respect and morality the Philippines is not a 3rd world country – the U.S. government. with their imposing will of what they deem is good for the world gets the title of 3rd world ignorance for disrespecting people and their culture.”

Filipina Lady Reputation

The Western world of morality as they see fit has insulted many Filipina women. There is an onslaught of Western feminism tying to impose their point of view without knowing her identity, her values, her upbringing, her experiences, and concerns. As usual, it is the government imposing their will backed by political hags that are out of touch of what it takes to survive as an average citizen. Instead of asking the folks who actually have to live life, political ambitions continue to impose what they think is right for the average citizen to further their own political endeavors and wealth. This alienation perpetrates most Filipina Ladies’ reputation in a bad light instead of protecting it. As one Filipina Lady said: “if the government is involved on my behalf, they need to live my life before they impose their will – I”m not forced to do anything I don’t want to do when given free will – only the government forces me to do what I find insulting and unnecessary.”

Most Filipina Ladies who join a dating site do so for the right reasons (see Filipina Lady) They may be tagged by politicians and special interest groups as helpless victims, but many find that the ignorance lies within the government policy to take away their individual rights by using the helpless victim tag as a means to promote their own selfish agenda for individual gain. To them the political agenda is obvious, while the vast majority wants and needs are ignored in favor of a few who prostitute their unfortunate story as being the truth of many. Nothing could be so wrong as the government’s unwillingness to talk to those who know the truth and use fabrication to further their agenda and individual wealth. The government could learn a lot about morality from a simple Filipina Lady who knows what is best for her and how to live life.

Filipina Lady – She is

Who is she? An individual with much to offer. Desired for her beauty that is reflected in her character as a person, not as a governmental pawn for political agendas. If you ask her what her agenda may be and you don’t agree, give her respect, give her free will and give her the ability to choose for herself as long as she is not harming others. She may be many things to many people, but let her decide who she wants to be. She is Filipino, a lady from the Philippines that is as proud as any woman from any country whom endearingly is known to most of us as a Filipina Lady.

Curt Webber asked:


Every man who decides to marry a mail order bride has his own reasons. One good one is because the divorce rate among men who marry foreign women is dramatically lower than what you’ll find among conventional marriages.

Another reason some men choose a mail order bride is because they want a more traditional type family life, the kind that prevailed many years ago with the woman staying home and taking care of the house, her husband and raising the kids. They’ve learned they can find that more easily with foreign women.

Meeting a woman online from a foreign country and deciding to marry her is much more accepted today than it was several years ago. Online dating in general continues to increase in popularity and today it’s just as easy to meet someone from the other side of the world as it is to meet someone from the other side of town.

There are a few differences between mail order bride dating sites and general dating sites online. The mail order bride sites are generally filled with women who are actively seeking marriage-minded men. Sometimes referred to as marriage agencies, this type site is being seen more frequently every year.

A mail order bride is not the right choice for every man, of course, as some men don’t like the scrutiny that often accompanies the choice to marry a foreign woman. Her family may want to ‘put him under the microscope’ before they give their approval.

It’s very important that you be open minded if you’re considering marriage with a foreign woman. Her culture must be respected and honored; even in the areas it’s different from your own. She may accept your customs and beliefs in time, but don’t expect her to completely abandon her own.

In many of the countries popular for mail order brides, the decision to marry involves the bride’s whole family. In many case, you’ll be expected to visit her country and meet her family. If she lives in a very small town or village, you may even be introduced to the village leaders, since the people of the town highly regard the opinions of the leaders.

Be prepared that there are still narrow-minded people that will doubt the sincerity of your new bride’s intentions. They may think she only wants to escape her own country, or just seeks citizenship. It will be your responsibility to set their thinking straight and defend your wife if the situation warrants it.

Some of those same closed-minded folks may think you decided on a mail order bride because you wanted a sex-slave or someone to keep your house clean and cook your meals without complaining. Your love and respect for your bride should be enough to put such nonsense to rest.

Obviously, these views are not main stream, and are only held by those people who still believe the outdated stereotype of mail order brides. But if you should encounter such prejudice, you need to be prepared to deal with it.

In fact, men who marry foreign women tend to have longer, happier marriages, according to studies that have been done. But it’s a good idea to be aware of some of the issues you may face in addition to the differences in culture, before you decide if a mail order bride is the right choice for you.

When you’ve decided you can handle whatever issues come your way, spend time getting to know a woman before you ask her to leave her family and her country behind. While it’s an awesome responsibility to take on a mail order bride, those who have done so have said it’s the best decision they’ve ever made.

Filipina Kisses asked:


Do you want to date a Filipina girl? If you have Filipina friends then you already know what are Filipina girls like. However, for the benefit of those still searching and looking for a Filipina girlfriend, these are some qualities you would surely like to know.

First, Filipina girls are known for their exotic oriental beauty and sweetness. There are many beautiful Filipinas who are famous worldwide, and have won international awards on beauty contests.

Some very popular Filipina Americans have even made it to Hollywood and American television, like  Vanessa Anne Hudgens, Tia Carrere, Phoebe Cates, Reggie Lee who played Bill Kim in “Prison Break (Season 2)”, Victoria Principal of “Dallas”, Victoria Recaño of “CSI: Miami”, Rob Schneider of “Saturday Night Live”, Anna Maria Perez de Tagle who played Ashley from “Hannah Montana”, Tamlyn Tomita of “The Joy Luck Club” and “The Karate Kid – Part II”, Cheryl Burke who is a participant in “Dancing with the Stars”, Vanessa Minnillo and many others.

In the international music industry, there are the likes of Allan Pineda of The Black Eyed Peas, Kirk Hammett who is the lead guitarist for Metallica, Enrique Iglesias, Julio Iglesias Jr., Nicole Scherzinger who is the lead singer for the Pussycat Dolls, and many others. Filipina Americans who were “American Idol” contestants includes Jasmine Trias of American Idol (Season 3), Camile Velasco of American Idol (Season 3), Melinda Lira of American Idol (season 4) and Ramiele Malubay of American Idol (Season 7).  Also the first Asian supermodel in the 1980s who is Anna Bayle, and the famous Hollywood Fashion Designer Monique Lhuillier, who was born and raised in the Philippine province of Cebu, are both Filipina Americans.

Second, Filipina girls are not only beautiful, but are also charming and cheerful. Filipinas have a positive disposition in life making them delightful and friendly.

Third, the Filipina girl is often times conservative about how she conducts herself, particularly in public. A Filipina girl is usually prim and proper in her actions. This is because the Philippines is a country with many old fashioned ways.

In the courtship aspect, a real Filipina from the Philippines will respect her elders, have close family ties, strong religious beliefs, and will take a man seriously if only he is really willing to visit her family and introduce himself formally to her parents. It is considered disrespectful if a man courts a Filipina girl without informing her parents! In the Philippines, you should know that it is always expected that the man must show his face to the Filipina girl’s family or else her whole family will not approve of you!

With that, Filipina women are expected to be playing hard to get. It is also one way by which the Filipina woman can measure the sincerity of her man. Love and romance is a very serious matter with conservative Filipina women, whether they are from a city like Manila, Cebu or the provinces.

Fourth, many Filipina girls have a heart of gold. They are also very sweet, loving, romantic, loyal and really faithful to the man they love. So, if you want to marry a Filipina girl, you should win the love in her Filipina heart, and you can have your Filipina beauty as your Filipina bride.  However, be patient in your courtship and be really sincere in your intentions and you will surely win the love of her Filipina heart.

So, if you are looking for a Filipina girlfriend to be your future Filipina bride, do not wait for it to happen to you. Take action now. Join online Filipina dating sites, such as Filipinakisses.com and meet the Filipina girl of your dreams!