The Love Scout

Sam Gallant asked:

American men in the US seek foreign brides these days. Generally foreign brides do not leave them a pinch due to their nature of religious beliefs, family expectations, financial insecurity as well as the maternal character of giving priority to their spouse and children. Generally broken families and fatherless children are not the traditions outside America. By foreign brides people generally think about the Asian Brides or women form East Asian Countries.

Apart from these there are several other reasons for giving preference to foreign women nowadays. Some men believe that foreign women are more concerned and devoted to the man and the marriage. Some men are attracted to foreign marriages because they feel that generally such marriages are more traditional and committed in their viewpoint. So people like the approach of commitment nowadays.

Foreign women from other cultures are also more respectful towards their husbands and less selfish. Also they are more submissive. People in US are in search of foreign women due to their back ground with old fashioned values like respecting man as the head of the household, maintaining very close relationship with her family, not dressing in an absurd way and are more spiritual and religious. Such women do not often to clubs and drink a lot and do not have outside serious relationships.

Foreign brides also do not divorce as much as in the western part. Also they are more loyal in relationships and also less likely to cheat. They live with the feeling that all their friends and associates will respect them in a different way so people find it cool and trendy to be with foreign women. Some people also believe that they are more affectionate

Its is due to all above stated reasons that foreign women is the preferred choice nowadays and people seek to meet, date and marry such women and make part of their lives.

Peter Finch asked:


Having a boyfriend who is a foreigner automatically elevates the social status of a typical Filipina lady, especially if she comes from the provinces where poverty exists and the issue of where to get the next meal is a daily question.

Back in your country, you may just be an ordinary employee earning an average wage and may always be trying to meet your bills and make both ends meet, but for most of the Filipina ladies, you are wealthy. Having you for a boyfriend is a status symbol and her friends and neighbors will envy her. No matter how poor you say you are, for her you are still rich. This could be due to the reality that in terms of material things, those daily necessities which you take for granted are considered luxury in the Philippines.

Take your car for example. In your country, cars are a necessity but it is a different matter in the Philippines. Cars are a luxury and only those in the upper high class families could not afford them. Even small household appliances like washing machines, rice cookers, sandwich makers, dish washers, food blenders, oven toasters, and other push button appliances which you take for granted as “must haves” may be considered out of reach for the ordinary pockets of average Filipinas.

So she has professed her love for you, but you told her you have no money? This is your chance to test whether your Filipina lady really loves you or just looks at you as a visa to go to other countries and eventually lift her and her family up from poverty.

Sadly, a percentage of Filipina ladies who are very smart and business minded exist and if you tell them you have no money, they will automatically turn their backs on you and look for other prospects. Women like these are not interested in a life long commitment to a man and it pays to know how to spot them early on so you will be spared the trouble, heartache and yes, expenses.

For these women, your age and physical attributes suddenly matters and they would decide they can not live with someone like you. They dreamed of a luxurious life in a land flowing with milk and honey and these women are those you should avoid.

Continue your search for your perfect Filipina bride if you are really that determined. She is just somewhere out there, waiting for the right time at the right place. Remember though that she may not be a factory-made, perfect-wife material (those things exist only in your mind) but it is up to you to bring out the best in her.

For a Filipina woman who loves you, your economic status in life does not matter. If she loves you, she will be there for you to help and support you. She is adaptable and can accept what is there without complaints.

Peter Finch asked:


What made you believe that you can find the right woman on the net? Today there are hundreds of websites offering matchmaking services. Some more successful than others, you can give them a chance to change your life forever.

Russian mail order brides has become a popular search phrase in the last few years. Many people share experiences in the web forums, telling stories of either extremely successful relationships they managed to start with the help of dating sites or unpleasant experiences with Russian women who were trying by all means to hang on to them and use them as a tool to get away from their native country.

Indeed there are many women who are taking advantage of their sex and good looks. They are pretending to be looking for a real relationship but all they actually want is a fake marriage which will allow them to stay in a western country.

Sometimes after having a visa for a longer stay abroad, they feel free to find another partner which suits their needs better for a rich and light-hearted lifestyle. Keep this in mind when you are surfing in your search for “Russian mail order brides”.

On the other hand, the vast Russian country is full of truly modest women who are looking for real love and dream for a romantic relationship. Most agencies offering “Russian mail order brides” services do their best to filter the profiles and to limit the fake ones.

They do this by asking women to fill in long questionnaires in which they are obliged to share not only their real age and background but also to explain their motivation and answer the question “Why are you looking for a relationship with a foreigner?” Later when you contact the agency they will provide you with contact details for the women who you like and have passed their scam tests.

Hence the term “mail order bride” arose. For any woman, whether she be Russian, Ukrainian or any other nationality for that matter, the term is massively insulting. It compares to going through a shopping catalogue, picking your product and buying it.

Well I have news for you. Finding and dating a real Russian woman is a challenge and these days, the promise of life in the so called “holy grail” of the UK, USA or Europe is no longer the top draw that it used to be. Quite simply, Russian women can access the internet too. They understand that life is not quite so grand in the West as it is made out to be!

Matchmaking services have improved over the years and today “Russian mail order brides” does not mean only a few perfumed letters with an old picture of a lady in her 40′s but real interactive communication with your future bride.

Agents are aware, more experienced and better than ever in finding the best match for you. They know that Russian scams are actually ruining their reputations and try to do their best to prove that their business is not blackmail, but a real dating service.

Before starting your Russian mail order brides search – and I caution you against using that term – you should clarify and be honest first to yourself and then to the matchmaker what type of profile of lady you are looking for and why. Men sometimes are searching for a bride in Russia just for the thrill to meet a lady who is different to what he is used to at home.

The truth is that out there are women with true feelings. Russians are not pretty Matrioshka dolls which you take home after your annual holiday. These women are hoping that you might be the one who will treat them well, respect them and make them feel loved.

Marriage is a serious step and taking a Russian bride is not a childish game of having a family. If you are only looking for a temporary date it is better to make this clear from the very beginning. Otherwise you risk ending up with someone who you like but you would never love. I warn you of this because Russian woman in love are really consistent and loyal.

It is a kind of national characteristic and you can not change it. Yet, there are many examples of successful relationships between Russians and foreigners. All you should do is to read between the lines during your correspondence and try to know better your spouse before asking her to marry you on Valentine’s Day.