The Love Scout

Debra Berndt, CHt asked:


The circumstances in your lives seem to happen by chance. You may blame your single status and dating bad luck on others and good experiences on random fate. The Law of Attraction states that your life experience is a direct result of your thinking. In order to change those ideas to attract the love you want, you must change the pattern of thought on the subconscious level. Understanding the power of the subconscious is the key to attracting the love of your life.

Imagine the conscious mind as a driver and the subconscious as a car. The driver of the car cannot go anywhere without the support of the engine, wheels and fuel. When a car breaks down, you look under the hood to see what needs to be fixed. If you want love but cannot seem to attract a good relationship, you should look within for a block in the subconscious. When you constantly arrive at an unplanned destination, it is like being asleep at the wheel as the subconscious operates on autopilot. The best way to stay in control of your dating life is to change the habitual thinking that led to your past pattern of bad relationships.

The subconscious is a giant database of all of your experiences and memories since conception. It holds the information on how to walk and talk, as well as beliefs that fire is hot and ice cream tastes good. This database contains all of your memories, habits, emotional responses, and opinions. All life events are neutral. You give meaning to the events that ultimately shape your experience. We formed basic beliefs early on that are reinforced throughout life. All humans have a unique blueprint in their subconscious. Just like a magnet, your individual blueprint attracts everything you experience, including every relationship.

As your mind begins to mature around eight years old, you form the critical mind to help filter out what you believe and do not believe. The critical mind serves as a gatekeeper between the conscious and subconscious mind. This is the chatterbox you hear all day long. These chattering thoughts judge and analyze your world, as it feeds past ideas from the subconscious up to your conscious mind. The gateway also prevents new ideas from entering the subconscious if they are incompatible with the established belief system.

Have you ever known a woman with low self-esteem when it comes to dating? She may be attractive and intelligent, but her subconscious may be running a program that she is not wanted. This false inner belief acts like a magnet, attracting suitors that reinforce that idea. She will be drawn to men that treat her poorly, and reject nicer men that pursue her. She may not realize why she repeats the same pattern, because it lies beneath her conscious awareness. She could have decided that she was not wanted when she was picked last on the kickball team in first grade or even as early as conception when the pregnancy was not planned. An emotional experience created the initial program, “I am not wanted,” and subsequent events reinforced the idea throughout her life. Unless she uncovers and alters this program, the same circumstances will be drawn to her in the future.

Self-hypnosis uses the altered state or trance that relaxes the chatter mind, so that subconscious patterns can be reprogrammed in alignment with your conscious will. This experience is similar to watching television or listening to music. Affirmations are typically not effective because the critical mind is constantly rejecting new ideas. You can change subconscious programming by using self-hypnosis audio programs, or simply by focusing on positive ideas as you drift off to slumber every night. Listening to self-hypnosis programs daily for at least 30 days can reprogram your habitual thinking and change your internal magnet. Most clients who used my Attract the Love of Your Life CD met their man within 30-90 days. If you are ready for love, this is the easiest and fastest way to change those patterns.

Your life has been fueled by the quality of thoughts held in the subconscious. As you adjust inner programming, the things you want in life are naturally attracted to you. You will become irresistible to men, feel more confident in social settings and have a more relaxed, joyful presence. Change your internal magnet to thoughts of abundance, self-love and joy, and you will experience the world in a new way.

Oxana Boichenko asked:

If you are thinking of meeting a Russian woman over the Internet – you HAVE to be aware of these most popular scams online:

Here are the most popular cities considered to be the scam capitals of their countries:

Lugansk- the scam capital of Ukraine – 90% of the ladies are scamming foreign men for money, presents, etc; read on to see the most popular scams.

Yoshkar-Ola – the scam capital of Russia

Kazan – the scam capital of Russia

Minsk- the scam capital of Belarus

In this article will be explained the most popular scams that Russian women go through and the saddest real stories that I witnesses when American men lost their head and a lot of money when chasing their dream.

I came to Lugansk with a purpose to open another matchmaking office there.

I think many have heard about the tremendous beauty of hot and sensual Ukrainian girls but only a smaller number of them do really know that exactly in this small Ukrainian town with a poetic name Lugansk every girl is a real supermodel. Frankly speaking, I didn’t have any version about why is it so, until the time when I introduced with one interesting and of course beautiful woman, who told me that in the time of the Russian Impress Katherine the second’s ruling, she dispatched all the beautiful girls to that remote area. She eliminated all that women of tremendous beauty in unknown city of Lugansk, in order their charm could not darken the beauty of the powerful Empress. In such a way, this small city was full of girls of unbelievable beauty and they were passing this real value from generation to generation. Probably it’s just a beautiful legend, but you start unwillingly believing it when you walk in the streets of Lugansk and stare at dazzling smiles of Lugansk beauties.

In one of the hot days, I set down on a bench in the shadow in a cozy and pretty park and lazily was looking at people who were resting there. Through some time my attention was attracted by a group of four chaps – two guys and two girls. One of the women among them was tremendously beautiful! A guy that was sticking with her was pretty much athletic but he was staring at another man in a very unfriendly way. At the mean time, the guy that was gazed by another man admirably looked at that extremely beautiful girl. The second chick as I understood was a translator, because guy that was charmed most all spoke in English. The interpreter seemed nervous and unconfident. The beauty was only answering “yes” or “no” and the conversation of two seemed more like a monolog of a foreigner. In some 15-20 minutes the stranger took out of his wallet and passed few green banknotes to the translator. Then, girls and the athletic guy left a foreigner alone and gone in a car that was waiting for them.

As I later found out, the foreigner was an American. His name was Steve. He seemed really confused. That’s why I decided to approach him and ask if he needs any help. So, we introduced and from that moment I started getting to know a different side of Lugansk. It was another truth – a shocking truth about this city.

He came from USA to meet his virtual woman of dream and gain his long-awaited happiness. His whole family was expecting him home with his beautiful, loving and caring Ukrainian bride. However his fiancé disappeared from his life unexpectedly, just like she entered it. The same thing happened to his friend who came with him to Lugansk for seeing his bride.

So, what was so horrible and what happened to both of them?

I told this guy’s story to the manager of my newly registered Lugansk branch of “oksanalove” mail order bride agency. And I was even more surprised and confused when she told me not a legend and not a history, but a real thing. I won’t tell about all the details. I just going tell you about some facts that I found out there.

So, Lugansk and other scam cities have several illegal fake agencies that work behind the closed doors. They don’t give any of their contact details; they do not provide clients with any trustworthy information, they don’t have advertisements. The pictures of their beautiful clients they put in different free internet sites like Absolute agency, etc. Many of their clients are married young women. They are not unfaithful to their husbands and do not look for a partner for creating a family. So, why do they address to the dating agency? The answer is simple and horrifying – is the money. This is it! The work of these beauties is also simple and does not really bother them. They just bring their photos to the agency and that’s all. The rest is the task for their agency. They decide on what web-site to put the newly came girl’s picture, they write letters to her trapped man and so on. Of course man has to pay for all those letters, where “his” woman get’s percentage for his spending. As a rule they receive lots of letters from the foreign clients and the fiancé (if I can say so) on the wings of love fly to these cities to see their beloved ones. Finally, the couples have a meeting and… Confused fiancé’s get a cold look of their Lugansk beauty instead of a sweet kiss.

They loyally pay money for personal translator service, driver, apartment found by their baby-girls and stay alone with their dreams. At the meantime, their brides honestly get their “share” for every deal from their translator who works for the agency. Usually, the fake bride gets some percent from the whole sum given by her fiance. And actually, her salary depends on how much generous her fiancée is.

Some men spent 10K, others 15K, most generous one (I heard) spent 35 – 45 Thousands!

Well, this is a sad story about Lugansk’s beautiful women and their fake dating agencies. I take all the responsibility for the reliability of this information and it’s checked by myself. In two similar agencies that I attended as a fake client I got the whole information about how the agencies of such kind operate and how their brides should work in their team. I told them that I’m married hiding the facts that could make them suspicious and disclose my intension’s. As I told before, I will not describe all the details. However, it made me even the more striving for realizing my purpose.

Here are proximate % that ladies receive from their man’s spending:

Letters – 40%

Gifts – 20 – 30%

Phone calls, translation services – 30%

Persona driver and interpreter when man arrives – 50%

Apartment / hotel rent – 20%

When searching for a foreign woman on the Internet, watch closely how she plans a meeting with you: does she want to have her own interpreter? – Red flag

Does she wan her person driver? – Red flag.

Does she want to travel with her own interpreter if meeting takes place in a third country? – Red flag.

Don’t get me wrong, there are plenty of girls in Lugansk (or other Russian, Ukrainian cities) who want to find her second half, one she could give all her love, passion, tenderness, faithfulness and beauty.

See those specially selected ladies at our site who truly want to find love and happiness with a foreign man.

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