The Love Scout

Peter Finch asked:


Russians have spirit and passion. Just like any other relationship it will be hard at moments to understand your bride and agree with her moods.

Unlike western society where people are alienated, Russians always are supportive and are ready to lend a hand to everyone in need. They need to share all the moments of happiness or misfortune. Probably they will be surprised how so many young people are leaving their parents and see them only for Christmas or Easter.

Your first task after introducing your wife to your family is to make her feel comfortable with them. Cultural differences are not one and two and the bridegroom should be patient and explain the whole system and modern traditions which we westerners follow.

Do not be jealous if your wife is kissing your brother cheeks, or hugs him every time when she sees him. Russians are warm people and these gestures are not seduction, but a way to show that they like him as a brother.

It is not strange that in Russian, the word brat (brother) is very popular and can be heard between comrades. Every scene of jealous feelings will have a negative effect on your bride and will make her feel oppressed and misunderstood.

Russians have a good education system which allows them to be active members of the foreign society. They have various interests and hobbies. Most of them have been participating in groups for arts or literature circles in high school.

Engineering and heavy industry are well developed in Russia so do not be surprised if your wife is having degree in physics or chemistry and wants to put her knowledge into practice in her new home country. The best you can do for her is to support her and guide her in the complicated recruitment labyrinths. She will appreciate this and praise you forever.

Modern Russians enjoy freedom and entertainment. Do not force your pretty bride to stay home on Friday night and watch television with you. Take her out and show her your favorite places for dining. These ladies have fantastic rhythm; invite her to a club and this will be a feast for your senses. Join her and dance like nobody is watching.

Traveling broadens your horizon. Now when you have such a charming company is the time to get on the car and escape the noise of the city. Whenever you can, tour the country and show her places which she has seen only on the map. This will help you strengthen your relationship and will be extremely interesting to her. Experiences are those tiny bolts which make the feeling real and the memories stronger.

Surprise her with flowers. Those small gestures will fill your life with romance. In Russia, March 8th is very popular holiday. In case you have not noticed it yet, this is international women’s day. Under no circumstances, should you forget this occasion! It is as bad as forgetting Valentine’s Day!

Be creative and make your pretty Russian bride important in your life, do not forget holidays and respect her culture. In return she will stay with you forever.

datingrw asked:


SECURITY and LOVE are the most important things Russian girls want to have in the relationship. If we search through thousands of women’s applications, read ladies’ forums, we will see that the most important requirement to a potential partner is reliability. Almost all of brides say: “I want my future husband to love and understand me.”

The most popular requirement we see in women’s questionnaires is “financially secure”. A foregn man does not have to be very rich and have a six-figure annual income. Having a stable job is good enough. The better your financial situation, the less problems a family will have in future. It means, a fiancé must have a stable job and be able to provide for a family of at least 3.

The women’s income is not high in Russia, but it does not mean that Russian brides are after your money. They just want to make sure everyday surviving never happens to them and their families in the US. A Russian wife will support you through any turn of fortune, whether you go bankrupt or hit a jackpot. But nobody wants to start a serious relationship with an unemployed loser.

At first fiancé’s good financial standing may impress a Russian women. It worth respecting. But soon the other important factors will count. A  relationship works successfully when it involves mostly emotional factors. The majority of women will refuse rich guys with a high income in favor of an ordinary men, if ladies like them more personally. Women want to feel secure and at ease.

Love for Russian ladies includes commitment. Since long distance relationships don’t make much sense without possibility of being together in the future, the women need assurance you are ready to offer this commitment. If you are not looking for a marriage partner, Russian ladies won’t take you seriously.

 

Shelley Lowery asked:


A mail order bride is a term that describes a woman who may advertise her desire to marry someone from another, more developed, country.

Many times, men will seek a mail order bride, as they want a woman to marry who has been raised in a society that has instructed her that she is generally subservient to her husband – a trait that many men find very attractive. Russian mail order brides are big business on the internet as are Asian mail order brides.

If you are a man seeking a mail order bride, please know that you are putting yourself into a position to be scammed. You may be scammed by the companies offering the mail order bride service and you may be scammed by the mail order brides themselves.

Here are some tips to prevent you from becoming a victim:

1. The first indication that the mail order bride company may not be on the up and up is if they have a free email address and no street address. Free email addresses are untraceable. Only ISP email addresses can be traced.

2. If the membership fee is very low or even nonexistent, but there are ‘fees’ for forwarding emails or other services, be very wary of the mail order bride company.

3. If you receive letters from the woman you have selected from a catalogue, and the letters never use your name, but instead use terms, such as “sweetie, honey, darling, or my love,” red flags should go up. These are generic form letters. The letter that you may have sent was probably not even read.

4. If after two or three letters have been exchanged, the woman declares her love, it may be flattering, but it should also raise a red flag. She can’t be ‘in love’ with a person she doesn’t even know.

5. If she requests money so that she can come to meet you, be very, very careful. Do NOT send money. Instead, if you really feel this woman is sincere, tell her you will make arrangements with a local taxi service to pick her up at her home and deliver her to the airport. Make airline reservations, but do NOT send money for air fare. And finally, make hotel reservations for the bride.

What you must also realize is that although you know exactly what you want from your mail order bride, your potential ‘bride’ also knows what SHE wants and the two may not be compatible.

If you make the mistake of sending money to the bride to be, you will most likely be met with ‘delays,’ which will all require that more money be sent. Then, there may be emergencies in the bride’s family that will require yet more money be sent. You will most likely end up with an empty bank account and no bride to show for your efforts.

There are, of course, legitimate mail order bride operations, but there are a lot more illegitimate ones. This is one of those situations where ‘buyer beware’ applies.